Sunday 5 May 2013

Life story

When I read "My Secret Wish List" by 'Preeti Shenoy' I really felt so good the way Diksha led her life finally taking good decisions....

But I found a real story exactly same as this story...but I wish the girl who got married a few days back doesn't  have a same ending as such in the novel...

Diksha, a high school girl hardly having 16 yrs, was caught with her boyfriend kissing in the late night at some science fare...which made her parents punish her in such a way by getting her married of at the age of 19 to an elderly idiot, who is around 10 yrs elder than her...

She'll get married to him thinking him to be a good company for her and also to gain back the trust of her parents on her.....She never thought she would become just a servent for her husband to cook food when he's hungry, take care of her 9 yr old son and also be a pleasure for her husband in bed room....
She could never dare to think about her own life, her career and never dared to raise her voice at her husband......even her 9 yr old son noticed her suffering..which never caught the eye of her husband...

But this left her with a heavy pain crept deep her heart....

She wrote her Secret Wish List at her cousin's home one day....that made her follow her heart again....

She did what all she wished.....she also found her boyfriend again, did many other things she wished to do as per the secret wish list she made....

And finally divorsed her heartless, cold and obnoxious Husband and married of her Boyfriend....and lived happily ever after...along with her son....

Now I'm recalling all this story as I found a Life story which is almost same to this story...

My friend Madhu(22)'s cousin, Sumi...She's 19 yrs old....
We met her when she came to join polytechnic...2 yrs back....
She's from a remote area of Tamil Nadu....
She's good looking and very active girl....

But the only thing she did was, talking to a guy closely....This seemed suspicious to her parents who wanted to get her married off as soon as she completes her course....

She came to know that her marriage was fixed just 15 days before her marriage.....She've never talked to the groom she's going to live with fo the rest of her life.....

Out of curiosity,we all attended her marriage...
I was really ashtanished to find the groom very stout and seems far aged than her...the thing is he's 29 when Sumi is just 19.....

I found Sumi smiling all through the marriage and other times while the Groom never gave a minimal formality smile to all...not even for photos and videos....

He looked so stern and serious....
(Its mostly looked like a child marriage...for me...)

Sumi talked more jovially...

Its so unfair to her parents to simply get rid of her or punish her in this way.....Don't they have faith on their own daughter...Can't they trust her....

I wish her story shoul not end in such a way thats ended in the novel....
I wish her Husband be friendly and loving to her.....

I really  cross my fingers for this....

How India is still this conservative in some parts of the world....Don't the parents love their daughters??? How do the parents think that their daughters are burden for them???
How come its fine if a guy does the same...and having many girl friends...or flirting with many is not facing any such restrictions.???
Don't the girl have any rights to choose the person she have to live with for the rest of her life???
Why there comes a difference in treating a city side girl with a village side girl???
Is it really such a sin girls nd guys bing friends???

Do you think India is really developing????

I really want to know all your opinion on this matter....!!!

3 comments:

  1. some of the parents are becoming very strange to their child due to their foolishness and spoiling their child's life. and boy and girl doing such type of things at the early stage with out proper maturity leads to several problems in the future to their family. at that young age the blood runs too fast makes them to so any thing at that time. a boy/girl who controls the emotions at that age will have better future. and i am really feed up with our country, most of the people are forgetting our Indian culture and following foreign culture but at other side we feel proud that other countries are following our culture. from 70 years India is developing country and i am sure that India will be developing country for 100 more years

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  2. i completely agree vth u priyanka..i should not talk much about this girl sumi..as i donno her,her parents. i knw that she is not matured enough to talk vth her parents,ofcourse they wnt listen..typical parent mentality.
    and coming to this context its not like that they married this grl to a guy who is far aged..but few years down the line she may live happily vth him,who knows..i can say one thng parents are our first and last well wishers.. but they should give us some space and understand our feelings and all those stuff.bt i thnk ths is not happning in many of our families.we cant help it out,it has to happen on its own,they have to understand and we have to respect them.
    and comming to the most complicated issue- a boy and a girl can be friendzz forever,this conition happens only if any of them (boy/girl) should be in a relationshp or they might have having someone in their heart.if not they vl feel one time or another that (he/she) vl be good for their beterhalf.im sorry who are in a true relation,im quoting for the majority percntage who falls in ths category.and u knw these kind of people what they use as their weapon??? none other than FRIENDSHIP..we can find few heartful relationships and for those poeple its not heartful its hardful..my conclusion is that people should be matured enough to know abt relations and its imprtance..and they should be even more skillful to cnvnce their parents bcz they are more important.

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  3. One should have their own awareness or understanding of their
    families culture and the environment in which they were brought up,
    So should act according to it and should try to explain their parents if problems were created by their taboo in an acceptable way.
    And it is always better to be inline of the controversial and the
    misunderstanding issues.
    In case of extreme adverse situations you can get legal support as a minor and as a major you have right to revolt in order to protect your life.

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